Receiving a cancer diagnosis can be scary and overwhelming for you and your loved ones. No matter how you’re feeling, remember you’re not alone – support is always available to help you navigate this time.
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Everyone responds differently when they’re first diagnosed with cancer. Any emotions, thoughts and reactions you experience during this time are normal and understandable.1 You may feel many emotions at one time, with most people experiencing a combination of fear, anger, helplessness, uncertainty, sadness, denial, guilt and frustration.1
Take the time to process however you’re feeling at your own pace and avoid expecting yourself to move on quickly.2
If you’re initially distressed and consumed by strong emotions, this may interfere with your ability to properly process the information you’re receiving, or make important decisions you’re presented with.2,3 At the time of diagnosis, you’re often expected to make big decisions about your treatment options and future plans, which can be difficult to do rationally if your judgement is clouded by emotion.2
If you’re feeling this way, talk to your doctor or healthcare team. They can answer any questions you have and share their knowledge about your diagnosis, treatment and recovery to help you make more informed, considered decisions.1 With many cancer treatments constantly improving, learning more about your illness and treatment plan may provide some calm and relief from your initial panic.1-3
Cancer impacts all areas of your life, and it can take some time to adjust to your new reality.2 You may also need to adapt to the impacts of your illness on your loved ones.
While cancer patients who channel more optimism and hope about their future have been shown to better adapt to their new circumstances, it’s equally important to avoid focusing only on positivity.4 Fear, uncertainty and sadness are warranted and appropriate responses to your diagnosis too,4 so ensure you’re making space for all emotions – the good and the “bad” – so you can properly process your diagnosis and how you’re feeling about it.2
Some people respond to a cancer diagnosis with emotional numbness, meaning they don’t immediately react or display emotion.4 It can feel too confronting or overwhelming to accept this information and the potential changes it will mean for your life, so it’s an understandable reaction. You may need time to sit with the meaning and implications of your diagnosis before you’re able to understand how you feel about it.4 If you’re struggling to process your illness, or you’re worried you’re stuck in a state of numbness, strategies like deep breathing, journalling and talking to loved ones may help you identify your true feelings and understand how to cope with them.1,3,4
There are several stages of emotional adjustment you may need to navigate through after receiving a cancer diagnosis. These won’t necessarily occur in order, and you may find yourself regressing or switching back and forth between several stages:
SHOCK
This can look like disbelief, avoidance, denial, numbness or distress.5 You may avoid thinking about your diagnosis, pretend it’s not happening or even put off sharing the information with those close to you to convince yourself it’s “not real”.5
PROCESSING
During this phase, you’re likely to experience a vast and fluctuating range of emotions. Remember you are strong enough to work through any emotions that come up.5 Emotions are temporary, so notice and process them without judgement, then move past them when you’re ready.5,6
ACCEPTANCE
This doesn’t mean your grief, fear and sadness suddenly vanish. Instead, your emotions may become less consuming and overwhelming as you come to terms with your diagnosis.2,5,6 You’ll inevitably still have good and bad days, and you can recognise there will be challenges ahead – but there will be positives amongst them too.2,5
Everyone responds differently when they’re first diagnosed with cancer. Any emotions, thoughts and reactions you experience during this time are normal and understandable.1 You may feel many emotions at one time, with most people experiencing a combination of fear, anger, helplessness, uncertainty, sadness, denial, guilt and frustration.1
Take the time to process however you’re feeling at your own pace and avoid expecting yourself to move on quickly.2
If you’re initially distressed and consumed by strong emotions, this may interfere with your ability to properly process the information you’re receiving, or make important decisions you’re presented with.2,3 At the time of diagnosis, you’re often expected to make big decisions about your treatment options and future plans, which can be difficult to do rationally if your judgement is clouded by emotion.2
If you’re feeling this way, talk to your doctor or healthcare team. They can answer any questions you have and share their knowledge about your diagnosis, treatment and recovery to help you make more informed, considered decisions.1 With many cancer treatments constantly improving, learning more about your illness and treatment plan may provide some calm and relief from your initial panic.1-3
Developing a strong support system is essential after receiving a cancer diagnosis. Some people feel alone with their illness, or don’t want to burden those close to them by talking about their struggles, but you never have to cope by yourself.1,3,4 Having a solid support network is a crucial element of looking after your mental and emotional health, as well as your physical health. Here are some places and people you can seek support from.
While you may worry about upsetting them, your close family and friends will genuinely want to help you in this difficult time as much as they can.1,2 If you’re hesitant to reach out, ask if they have the emotional capacity to receive difficult news and feelings before launching into details. If they do, share your honest thoughts and feelings, and ask for practical or emotional support with things you’d find most useful and beneficial – whether that’s providing an ear to listen to you, driving you to and from appointments, helping out with cooking or household tasks, or spending time with you unrelated to your diagnosis for some relief and joy.1,3-5
Online or in-person support groups are a fantastic way to help you feel less isolated and alone with your cancer diagnosis.3,7 You can connect with other people with cancer (or recovered cancer survivors) to share advice, insights and your feelings with others going through similar experiences.7
Many people find they’re able to be more open and honest in these settings, as you don’t need to protect close friends and family from the reality of your illness. Others in the group may relate to your hopes and fears about the future or have been through (or are currently undergoing) a similar diagnosis and treatment plan to yours.7 This can be really reassuring and relieving.7 Ask your healthcare team or check out Cancer Council’s directory to get in touch with relevant cancer support groups online or in your area.
Most people with cancer require support from a range of healthcare professionals throughout the cancer journey. Each practitioner plays an individual and important role in your care.8
Have open, honest conversations with your healthcare team, asking questions and seeking clarity whenever you need.8 Remember, your team is there for you, so speak up about anything you need or are worried about.
Healthcare professionals who can offer you support during this time include:
Various other healthcare professionals including your general practitioner, cancer care team and psychiatrists may also play a role in supporting you during your battle against cancer.8 There are many organisations available to help you navigate the emotional, physical, practical and financial implications of your diagnosis.
Connecting with other cancer survivors or patients can be a powerful source of support and comfort during your own journey.9 Hearing people’s stories may provide new perspectives and hope9 – though it’s important to remember your own experiences will be different to anyone else’s.
While your loved ones will want to help you, they may not fully understand the extent of the emotional or physical challenges you’re facing. Feeling like you belong within a community of cancer warriors and survivors who can relate may reassure you that you’re never alone during this unfamiliar experience.9
Telling family members and loved ones about your cancer diagnosis can be difficult. You may feel uncomfortable sharing the truth, concerned about your family’s reaction, scared of upsetting or worrying your loved ones, or afraid the diagnosis will become more “real” once others know about it too.1
While you never have to share with people if you don’t want to or feel ready, it can be really helpful to have those close to you understand what you’re navigating.1,3,4 It allows them to support you and makes you feel less alone.
Here are some practical strategies to help you break the news to the people in your life.
If your family members are struggling to process or talk about your diagnosis, encourage them to speak to a psychologist or counsellor.1 You can also bring them along to an appointment with your doctor or healthcare team, giving them the chance to ask questions, understand your condition, and accept the reality of your illness.1
If you have children, you may feel hesitant about sharing your diagnosis with them. People are often unsure whether children will fully understand their illness, or worry about scaring them.10 However, children can normally sense something is wrong – even if they may not know exactly what it is.1,10 For many children, the unease and uncertainty of not knowing can be harder to cope with than the truth.10 By sharing your diagnosis, you give them the chance to ask questions, express their feelings, and be involved in your cancer journey.10
With that said, there are a few things to consider when telling your children about your cancer:
While you may initially feel tempted to avoid or ignore your illness, understanding your diagnosis,5,6 the treatment it requires, and what the future may hold can be empowering and useful. The more you know, the more considered your decisions will be, meaning you’re less likely to make choices out of panic, desperation or emotion.1
Some people find comfort or reassurance in equipping themselves with as much information, research and knowledge about their condition as possible.1,2,4 Understanding your diagnosis and treatment plan can help you feel more secure about the future.1,2 Ask your healthcare team as many questions as possible and seek out evidence-based, reliable research sources.1,4
Prepare in advance for your appointments with your doctor or healthcare team, writing down any questions you have so your concerns can all be addressed.1,10 While it may be tempting to leave the details to your healthcare team, asking the hard questions can help you avoid catastrophising, making assumptions or letting your mind run wild with “worst-case scenarios”.8 This can help you feel more prepared for the future, better understand your options and illness, and avoid the anxiety that often comes with uncertainty.4,8
Consider asking your doctor and healthcare team the following questions to start:
You can also keep a symptom journal to track any changes in your symptoms and take this to your appointments to discuss with your doctor.8 While you may not notice small day-to-day changes, recording your daily experiences can help identify trends over time. This allows your healthcare team to address any symptoms that are causing you problems and act on anything they’re worried about.
While information is power, it does matter where you get your information from!8 As tempting as it can be to type your questions and symptoms into Doctor Google or AI platforms, this is not the way to go. It’s a one-way ticket to panic, fear and confusion, with the “answers” you’re given filled with fear-mongering content with minimal (if any!) fact. Instead, go to reputable sources like peer-reviewed journals, reliable organisations and government bodies for more accurate information.1,4,8
You can access resources, education and support from organisations including Cancer Council, Cancer Australia, and you can find further links to support organisations tailored to whatever stage of the cancer journey you’re navigating at Nutricia’s Cancer Hub.
Maintaining a healthy lifestyle may help to improve your quality of life as you battle cancer and undergo treatment. Nutrition, exercise and lifestyle strategies can help you manage common side effects of cancer treatment like loss of appetite, nausea and fatigue, and may allow you to feel more like yourself during this time.8
Try the following strategies:
Eat smaller meals more frequently to help manage nausea and include plenty of easy-to-digest, high-energy foods like bread, pasta and rice.8,11 Eat a variety of vegetables and fruits, as well as plenty of protein, healthy fats, fibre and whole grains each day.11 If you’re finding it difficult to eat enough due to taste or appetite changes, nausea, mouth sores or other possible side effects, ask your healthcare professional if an oral nutritional supplement (ONS) is appropriate for you. ONS like the Fortisip® range can help you meet your daily nutritional needs when your usual diet is not enough.12
This may help you maintain your muscle mass and strength and support your immune system throughout treatment, and improve your recovery.11,13
Learn more about optimising your nutrition during cancer with this guide.
Drinking plenty of water and fluids can help you manage nausea and support immune function and recovery.8,11 Sip water (or other fluids) slowly and regularly throughout the day.14
Foods rich in nutrients like zinc, omega-3 fatty acids and antioxidants may help support your immunity,13,14 which is particularly important while your normal immune function is compromised during treatment.11,13,14
Learn more about immune-supporting foods to eat during cancer and treatment here.
Gentle exercise may help you maintain muscle mass and support your recovery and mental health during cancer and treatment.8 Research shows exercise can help relieve feelings of anger, stress, anxiety and depression, and improve energy levels and sleep.8 Don’t push yourself too hard, as this can do more harm than good. Instead opt for low-intensity movement like walking, stretching and yoga. Rest is just as essential as exercise, so take it slow, listen to your body and honour whatever it needs.8
Take breaks throughout the day and schedule time for activities that help you relax like reading, listening to music, doing crafts or spending time with loved ones.8 It’s important to enjoy your life outside of cancer and remind yourself you’re more than your diagnosis!
Quality sleep can help prepare your body for the physical and mental burdens of cancer and treatment.8 If you’re struggling to fall or stay asleep due to anxiety, stress or physical side effects like nausea, try introducing gentle exercise into your day. Implementing a consistent nighttime routine and sleep schedule can also indicate to your brain when it’s time to wind down and prepare for rest.8
A “coping toolbox” is a combination of strategies you can draw upon to help you physically and mentally navigate the ups and downs of your cancer journey. There is no “right” way of coping, and the tools in your own toolbox will be unique to your situation, personality, and previous experiences.15 Having a range of tools to choose from can allow you to feel better equipped, more comfortable, in-control, prepared and supported in any situation.1,15
Try adding these strategies to your coping toolbox to support your physical and mental wellbeing:
JOURNALLING
Writing out your thoughts without judging or controlling them can help you begin to organise and understand what’s happening internally.1 Only when you create space and awareness to observe the internal dialogue and physical sensations occurring in your mind and body can you question or challenge them as needed.2,15
Allowing yourself the time to observe, process and move through your thoughts and emotions can help you develop the strength and resilience you need to navigate cancer and medical treatment.2 Learn to slow down, focus, and identify whether a thought is a feeling or a fact – so you can decide how to respond, instead of reacting reflexively.
BREATHING EXERCISES & GUIDED MEDITATION
These practices may relieve stress and anxiety. They can also improve your mood and sleep quality, reducing fatigue and supporting energy levels.1 Breathing and meditation may improve your quality of life as you move through cancer and treatment as they provide physical and emotional care.8
These practices again teach you to become less attached to your thoughts and allow difficult feelings to pass by without judging them. Both methods can help you be present, so you’re less inclined to catastrophise or panic whenever you receive new results or information from your healthcare team, or when you’re worried about your condition.15
GET CREATIVE
Creative outlets and activities like painting, playing (or listening to) music, knitting and craft can also help you express or identify how you’re feeling.1 You may or may not want to share your art and expression with those close to you to help you broach difficult topics, but if you find journalling and other approaches feel unnatural, jarring or overwhelming, this can be a great alternative.1,8,15 It can help you reconnect to yourself and your passions and remind you that you are so much more than your diagnosis!
SEEK PROFESSIONAL SUPPORT
If you’re feeling overwhelmed by feelings of stress, anxiety or depression, speak to a psychologist if possible.1,2,4,15 These emotions are completely understandable, but you do need to address them with the help of a highly qualified professional. This may allow you to feel more in-control, supported and capable of navigating whatever challenges the future holds, and can have a huge impact on your quality of life and your mental wellbeing during this challenging time.1,15 If you’re unsure where to look for professional help, ask your doctor or team to recommend a reliable psychologist for your circumstances and needs.1
It can feel like life comes to a standstill after receiving a cancer diagnosis. But there are decisions to be made, arrangements to organise, and treatment or management strategies to pursue.
While everyone’s cancer journey will be different, there are some common elements you can expect:
The cancer journey isn’t over when you finish treatment. It can be challenging to return to “normal” life and routines after everything you’ve been through.8 You may find yourself feeling almost abandoned by your healthcare team, unsure how to return to regular work and schedules, or worrying that every tiny ache or niggle indicates your illness is back. Your friends and family can also take a moment to readjust, so give them time if they’re still treating you with concern or worry.8
Side effects can take a while to resolve, so be patient and look after yourself as best as you can. Maintain good nutrition and gentle movement and give your body the care it needs to recover.16
If you’re struggling to accept your diagnosis or treatment, you’re confused or overwhelmed by your emotions, or you’re feeling lost without your treatment schedule and care team around you, reach out to a mental health professional or support service to get the care you need and deserve during this transition.8 Whether you connect with a psychologist, cancer support group, or your loved ones, it’s important to express all your feelings, and take the time you need to process and adjust to your new “normal”.8 While your treatment may be over, you have just experienced a really challenging time. Give yourself compassion and space to discover who you are away from your illness, and what you want your new “normal” to look like.8
Fortisip® is a food for special medical purposes and must be used under medical supervision.
This is provided for informational purposes only. It does not replace the advice of a healthcare professional. Please consult your healthcare professional for tailored advice.
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